Remembering…

 Don’t let anyone tell you ever that you are supposed to stopping mourning and missing people you’ve lost. What a crock. Our beloved people are forever. … Leonard Cohen wrote that there are cracks in everything, and that’s how the light gets in. Stay cracked; don’t let people shame you into using caulking.             – Anne Lamont

I put this in today for the many of us who have lost someone beloved to us. We don’t stop loving. It is natural that we go through a process of grieving, however long that may take. The stages of grief, brought to us by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, are denial, anger, bargaining, sadness or depression, and acceptance. Nowhere do you see forgetting. With acceptance you will find a place to hold this special person in your heart with gratitude, honor and love. It is indeed a wonderful day when someone speaks to me fondly about either my mother or my father. I remember them with gratitude, and it’s nice for me to know that others remember also. Be kind to yourself if you are grieving and remember that your goal isn’t to forget, but instead to remember with love.