I guess this statement someone put together could be a bit better, but I think it gets to an important idea. In fact, I think this could be the most valuable thing for people to learn, but maybe the hardest. The best help we can give to those we love is to allow them to take care of their own decisions, and their own growth and learning. Taking care of our own self is hard enough to master. Assume that those around you are able to take responsibility for their actions and choices. Treat them as if they are the fullest version of themselves, just as you would like to be yourself. To be involved in fixing, rearranging, or enabling others is to diminish the both of you. Anything that doesn’t come from unconditional love falls into the category of fear. Let go in order to give others the space to breathe; and follow that loving breath so it can overtake the fear.